Weighing up your options

Surprising opportunities come our way sometimes.

You may get noticed for who you are, what you do and what skills you offer.

You may get asked to come on board with something that could have a hugely life altering impact, financially or personally.

When these options come to the table, it really is a good idea to give yourself a window, be it 24 hours or however long you need to think through the consequences of saying yes or no to an opportunity.

Weighing up your options, and creating a table of clear pros and cons can help you steer towards the decision that is ultimately right for you.

Team spirit

Great leadership turns everyone into someone who believes in what they do.

Leadership is about making key decisions, but knowing you don’t make those decisions exclusively, you listen to those around you, you rely on the expertise of others, you allow your notions to be challenged before considering your choices moving forward.

Leadership is inclusive and when everyone is working towards the same collective goal, with the same approach, conviction and selflessness, kindness, generosity. Great leadership doesn’t allow for ego to get in the way.

Great leadership fosters a positive team spirit. Tangible systems are put in place to create intangible feelings, such as confidence.

Everyone, everywhere benefits from having a team that can work in a manner that elevates everyone.

And we can all do our best to try and play our part to make things better. Onwards.

Saying No.

When I was at Music school, I was told by alumni to say ‘yes’ to everything.

By ‘yes’ they meant every opportunity that came your way.

As much as it was well meaning, and endorsed the idea of ceasing certain moments, I think it to be equally, if not more important to know what to say no to.

Saying yes could compromise your integrity for a start and could take you down the road of selling out and being a hack that bares no resemblance to the adult you desired to be when you were a child. The second thing is that you can easily over commit yourself and burn out (I definitely do this from time to time).

Saying no means you are aware of what you have to offer and knowing when you are asked more than what you can offer. Saying no means you are thinking about what is important to you and whether saying yes to one thing sacrifices another more important thing.

Opportunities do come along, you can also make opportunities for yourself and sometimes we need to carefully consider the path we choose as to how we move forward.

Sense of collective

I can’t take credit for this, a music teacher on Twitter wrote a great joke.

‘Why did the choir cross the road?’

‘So they could attend the sporting event so they would be allowed to sing’

It rings true for us musicians because it hits the nail on the head in regards to double standards that are happening at the moment.

Major sporting events are happening. 40,000 were in attendance for the England game today. That’s great news of course, if it’s the case that we are not going to be contending with Covid cases increasing.

But when you have local level events happening like school sports days not being able to happen, or choir rehearsals, either of which involve significantly less numbers, it leaves a bitter taste.

It’s hard to have a sense of collective or belief in the credibility of authority when rules are so disproportionate and unequal.

Whatever scale we work or operate at, either local, regional or national, we need to ensure we treat everyone and every circumstances with dignity, mutual respect and standards that are consistent.

We are better off as ‘we’ instead of having a bitter taste in our mouth when ‘them’ has one rule and ‘us’ has another.

Solutions in motion

It can never be guaranteed that each day will be a good day.

Some days will be tough, where everything seems to get you down and things are on top of you.

Some of these days may be frequent or they may disappear and it’s part of life.

Some require simple solutions, others more complex and some unfortunately have no solutions, they are just the way things are.

But all that been said, I believe that there is something to be said for motion, walking, cycling, running or something else that gets you outside that can do something positive.

It may only alleviate your heavy feelings a little, but a little is better than nothing.

If this is how you feel, give it a try and may those heavier feelings subside for now.

Borgen

This is outstanding TV.

I’m late to the party with this since it first aired in 2010 but the Danish political drama holds up to today’s issues, and is a wonderfully intelligently written series.

Characters are complex, interesting and flawed, many are very charismatic and likeable as well and you are drawn into their lives and there is a real balance between professional and personal.

Whatever issues that are grappled with, politicians are required to be shrewd and careful in their decision making, whether it’s who you hire for a job or what you say to the press, everything counts for something.

And when your job consumes you, when you are prime minister, what impact does that have on family life?

Democracy and personal lives can be messy as they are currently are now and Borgen captures this wonderfully. It’s an absorbing and captivating watch.

I’m glad I stumbled across the series and happy to spread the word and recommend it.

Grey areas

Grey areas are what humans are. If you speak to each other in person, this is clear as day. You listen to each other, you see each other and although you may disagree, there’s the capacity to listen, to understand, to have empathy and less judgement of the person in front of you.

Why is this different on social media and the internet?

Why do we all of a sudden latch onto binary ideals, cancel culture and the need to strike people down in shame over transgressions that are trivial?

Is it because we are steered by social media’s collective offering of approval?

Social media was designed with the ability to give everyone a voice, but what’s more important than ever is reflection and deep introspection on how we use our voice and what for.

Jon Ronson’s Ted talk on this is one of the most strikingly profound videos I’ve ever watched on this subject, and I’m glad he spotted the toxic trends and was brave enough to write about it and call it out.

It’s unfortunate that since he released this talk, it becomes more relevant.

He articulates it better than myself so I’ve shared the video below.

It’s an opportunity to think about how we use our voice and we are a lot more in grey areas than social media makes us believe.

Kinky Wizzards – Live at Ratio Studios.

We are thrilled to share with you the news that we will be doing a premier for our new live video ‘Kinky Wizzards – Live at Ratio Studios’ on Thursday 24th June.

After being unable to play live for such a long period of time, it was an absolute joy to get into a space together to record a live set that we can share with you. It’s the next best thing to us being in an actual venue together during these times.

The set was recorded through once, so the footage is a real and raw live performance…no corrections, no overdubs, nada!

The video will be available to watch for free from YouTube and Vimeo but we would like to point you in the direction of ways you can support us and causes we are behind.

  1. If you enjoy the live music, you can buy copies of our CDs over at https://kinkywizzards.bandcamp.com/
  2. If you also enjoyed the set and want to help us in our next musical endeavours you can also buy us a coffee over at https://ko-fi.com/kwriffmiffjiff3
  3. This last year and a half has impacted so many people in a negative way and we want to use this event as an opportunity to encourage donations to charity organisations who are doing good work to help those in need. Here are some useful links.

Unicef – Help protect families in India https://www.unicef.org.uk/

UK Mental Health Foundation https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/donate?utm_source=ppc_google&utm_medium=paid_ads&utm_campaign=fundraising&gclid=Cj0KCQjw5auGBhDEARIsAFyNm9GapykFlems9QMca4HzLOa_2mktSAUfxhewXqAjPsTE6Vyo8TY-5VoaAp9pEALw_wcB

We look forward to seeing you for the premier next Thursday.

Here is a link to the video.

Warmest regards from Wales,

KW

Working with focus

I had a collaborative songwriting session with my bass guitarist and it lasted 45 minutes.

It was an insanely productive and exciting session where we got two ideas down sharpish. He had to shoot but we were happy with the outcomes.

When I talk to my students about practising, I usually go through a process of negotiation with them to discuss what practice means for them, how can it be interesting and how long is a reasonable time to practise each day. One of my younger students said 15 minutes and we agreed to see how they would get on. Turns out they can do rather well.

Our time is precious, but when looking at sessions that can be hours long, it can appear like it’s a mountain and we can easily fritter time away by the abundance of option.

However, 15, 20 or 45 minutes can force us to focus on one particular thing and achieve it.

When we are working on our own, or with a variety of a projects, it’s a good idea to segment processes into smaller chunks, because the result of that is most certainly some much needed focus.